Jake and Ben were born (in that order - two minutes apart) on July 30, 1993. Severe autism meant that their lives would quickly diverge, Ben moving to out-of-state residential programming before turning 13. But brothers they remain, and they spent their 20th Birthday weekend together. Actually, it began Thursday when Karen and Jake and I drove to Columbus, Ohio for Karen to attend an excellent Autism Speaks conference, "Treating the Whole Person with Autism: Care Across The Lifespan," on Friday and Saturday while Jake and I did some hiking in the woods and thumbing through some bins (in a record/CD store) before heading to Cleveland and the Big Benny Boy.